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Is Forgiveness Necessary for Healing? | The Role of Forgiveness in Emotional Health
Let's talk about forgiveness—not just as some abstract concept, but as a real-life journey toward emotional freedom. I've been there, navigating the rocky road of forgiveness, and let me tell you, it's no walk in the park. But along the way, I discovered something profound: forgiveness isn't about letting people off the hook; it's about setting ourselves free from the weight of resentment. It's about acknowledging the human imperfections that make forgiveness necessary.
So, let's journey together as I share my own struggles and triumphs in forgiveness. It's not about building walls to protect ourselves; it's about cultivating healthy boundaries that honor our worth. Together, we'll explore practical ways to foster forgiveness in our lives, allowing us to let go of bitterness and embrace personal growth and peace. Are you ready to join me on this transformative journey?
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Hello everyone. You're listening to the Cultivate Podcast and I'm your host, lorel Ko Malzak. This week has been a good week for me. It's been a really good week. Yesterday was like incredible.
Speaker 1:My wife and I were talking about the presence of God and just what that means and what it looks like. We just began to talk about what it meant for us to actually experience the presence of God. I was actually talking about how I feel like it's been a while that I've encountered this supernatural feeling or supernatural experience of God. It's been a while and I'm like God. I want to feel that again. I want to feel your presence, I want to feel you operate in my life and I want to feel that sense of presence. We were talking and one was like she came back from therapy and she felt free and she felt all of this great energy, this great revelation of where she is in her life. We decided to sit down on the floor and just take five minutes out of our day and just meditate and just pray no words, no music. Let's just take five minutes and just think of the goodness of God and invite God's presence in our life.
Speaker 1:One thing that I learned yesterday is that I've been asking God a lot of questions about what he can do for me, but I never asked God to sit in what I feel. I've never asked or invited God to sit in how I feel. If I'm uncomfortable, god, I want you to sit with me. I invite you to sit with me in this uncomfortable state. If I'm confused, god, I invite you to sit with me and be confused with me. I never really asked God those questions, so I feel like I've been asking God the wrong questions like Lord, give me, give me, seek this for me, god, and open the door for me, god, open up the windows of heaven for me. These are the prayers I've been asking God. Open up the windows. God, do this and do that. But I've never asked God to sit with me. I've never really invited God's presence to actually sit and feel what I feel. God is an empathetic God. He wants us to invite him into what we feel.
Speaker 1:I decided to ask God in that prayer time with my wife God, sit with me. I'm a little uncomfortable. Can you sit with me in that? Because I feel that if I can feel that you're sitting with me in this state, I can rely on you to change it without me asking for change, because I know that you're God that sees and hears me. That changed everything for me. Now my prayers are different, now every day. Okay, god, walk with me today, guide my steps. I want to make sure that I'm walking with you because I really want to fill your presence, because presence is everything. If I don't have the presence of God, it's going to be very difficult for me to operate in my fullest potential or to seek opportunities the right way, using wisdom, if God's not with me. That's something my wife and I have been really diving into, and that's just the presence of God. So yesterday was cool, yesterday was cool. The whole week, I believe, has been incredible.
Speaker 1:But one thing that bothered me if I can be extremely transparent, one thing that really bothers me is when people talk to my children in a way that I don't like. I'm going to tell you in a minute. I take my kids everywhere. I take my boys everywhere we go. They're there and for some people that can be overwhelming for us. Sometimes it is, sometimes it's not, but we're used to it at this point. We're used to controlled chaos. Sometimes it's uncontrolled, but it are kids. Who cares? It is what it is. I just feel that kids are supposed to be with the parents more times than they aren't. That's just the whole thing. That's my own opinion. So, yes, our kids are with this majority of the time, and every time we go out, usually we get questions about they're so well mannered or they're this or they're that.
Speaker 1:But one thing they've been saying that really bothers me is oh wow, you're a beautiful young boy, you're a handsome young man. Are you flirting with me? You're flirting with the old ladies and you're going to turn heads when you go. It starts to really get weird. It really starts to get weird, especially with the old ladies and I love you know I have respect for the old women, but when they start saying stuff like are you flirting? And my kids are four in one Like no, they're not flirting, they don't know nothing about that that term Like what are you talking about I hate when we over sexualized children it really starts to bother me.
Speaker 1:They're kids, they don't know anything about that world, yet here we are presenting it to them in a way that's really just inappropriate, and so that's really been bothering me. I heard someone say it the other day oh, you're flirting. And like no, they're not flirting, they're being kids. They're being a child that know nothing about the world of sex and yet here we are continuing to push an agenda of sex or sexual content or perception on them, when they don't need that. Just allow our kids to be kids, and that's just really been bothering me. Just let them be kids. I don't want to hear anything about flirting and you're going to turn heads with the girls and not listen. Man, don't be feeding my kids that stuff.
Speaker 1:So I'm starting to interject now. They're good, thank you, how you interject in a nice, sweet way. Are you flirting? You know they're doing. Maybe you're ready to go Nice to meet you and keep moving on. Move on, do that nice interjection. Oh, wow, look at the weather. Hey, will we talk to you? Like nice to meet you?
Speaker 1:Move forward, because I don't want to be too rude, but there's going to come a point of time where I'm going to be extremely blunt and direct and we don't over sexualize my kids. We don't do that. They're you know, they're four in one. They're not flirting and there's nothing about them. That's thinking about that, and so that's must really been. That's been in my heart. Y'all I don't know about y'all? How do y'all feel about that? This, this generation or this world where children are being overly sexualized for no reason at all? A lot of these agendas are being pushed on our kids and it's just kind of sick and I'm just kind of over it because I have kids now. So my perception on this is different right For different than when my wife didn't have kids. Now it's like oh man, I have children. I see my kids every day. They don't know nothing about this world. You know none about all that stuff until they hit puberty. Yet here we are Promoting it, it, constantly throwing it in their face as if they're supposed to know. Now, let the kids be kids. Let them they're. They're innocent right now. They don't know anything about that life. Let them grow in their innocence and let them Explore their innocence and they're their, their free-ness.
Speaker 1:I feel like we all should have an innocence with us. We, we hold ourselves bound by so many different things, so many Cultural ties, so many things in society. We hold ourselves bound Because and we're not living on our innocence and our freedom and I feel like the most free that we can ever be is when we get off Our phones and we get off our laptops and we live in in, not solitude, but just away from, away from culture. Just live away from it. You know, I'm saying just be away for a minute and allow yourself to Connect with community and with people that did you care about, people that you love, friends that you love, without having to look online To see what's going on. Because I feel like that kind of skews how we view ourselves it's huge how we view life, how we view children, how we view our jobs, and and then we start to compare ourselves and all of this just gets warped in our minds and I just feel that it's so important Just get away from all that noise and all that. It's just a distraction. We just got to get away.
Speaker 1:I Think that's how we will. I Think that's how we will Rediscover our innocence and our freedom. Our freedom, you know, and so I think that's what children have. They have this innocence of freedom because they're not behind the screen 24-7 and not looking at what's going on in culture. Did they have? No, no knowledge of comparison? No, it is that they're just free. Oh, what's that? What's that? A pot over there? Let me put my cars in the pot and run around the house with my cars in the pot. That's just innocence of freedom. I can do. You know, I'm saying Coal just going through every drawer, doesn't know what it, what he's grabbing, just going through drawers my one-year-old just Picking up stuff and throwing it, or picking up stuff and trying to figure out what it is, that's a freedom.
Speaker 1:Messing up, that's a level of innocence that I believe that we can all benefit from, even at our age, even in our 30s, 40s, 50s, just asking God, look, give me that innocence again so I can just walk freely without my own innocence, so I can just walk freely without all the cares, because the Bible tells us to cast our cares upon him. You know what I mean be anxious for nothing, that's living in innocence, as living as if we're children, right, yearning for God, desiring the sincere milk of the word anyways. So that's where I'm at, man, this kind of what has been going on in my week, and. But I want to talk about something, I want to dive deep into, something that I, I believe, is going to be very beneficial for us and something that I've been working through for a while, and that is forgiveness. It's forgiveness necessary for healing. Is forgiveness necessary for healing, and Some people would agree that it is and someone say that it is not.
Speaker 1:I'm going to tell you that forgiveness is not easy. Forgiveness is not something that is Easily sought after, but God does call us to forgive. So today we're going to talk about is forgiveness necessary for healing? Is Forgiveness necessary for healing? Again, I'm going to talk about topics that I have dealt with, that I've experienced, that I have worked through, that I've researched, and so I'm never going to bring or present something to you that I've never gone through in my life. I'm always going to present something to you that they got us dealt with me on, and forgiveness has been something that I had to deal with and I had to grow in, had to understand what it is and how to move forward in that and if it is necessary in order for me to heal and move forward. And so I'm going to give you some things. When I give you some pain points, I'm also going to give you solution to how to forgive and how to cultivate forgiveness in your life. So I Believe in our life.
Speaker 1:We've all have dealt with people that have done us wrong in some way. We all have experienced a level of disappointment, a level of anger based off of someone else's bad behavior toward us. And it's in those moments where we Discover that we are upset about something Someone did to us that we have choices to make. Either we're going to retaliate, either we're going to voice our opinions, or we're just gonna let it go. Letting go is the one thing that's the hardest. It's easy. I feel like it's easier for us to retaliate. For me, that's the big thing, like that's something I grew up. I'm like I'm going to retaliate, I'm gonna let you know, voice my opinion, let you know what you did and how I'm going to fix and rectify your behavior. And that's something that I grew up like Doing a lot.
Speaker 1:Anytime somebody wronged me, I had to say something, I had to step up and I had to stand up for myself. So for me, the reason why I felt like I had to constantly retaliate or constantly show up and and stance. So for me, the one of the reasons why I felt like I had to Constantly retaliate is because I felt I didn't matter and Because of my that false core belief of I'm not mattering, I had to force you to believe that I do matter and if you're going to wrong me. I'm going to Retaliate and let you know you're not going to talk to me that way, because I matter in this world and what you did to me is showing me you think I don't matter. So I had to go trying to prove this belief, this false core belief I've created in my mind that I don't matter. Now to go prove it, based off of someone else's bad behavior towards me, and that led to a lot of issues, sometimes some fights growing up. Sometimes it was me leading by Anger and resentment instead of leading by love, and so it was harder for me to To understand the concept of forgiveness. And even when my father passed away, and when he, you know, he let himself go because of suicide, it was hard for me to forgive him, for which I thought he was abandoning me and or rejecting me, you know, leaving the earth, leaving me here by myself, and I had to forgive him for that. And that took some time. It took over 10 years to really realize oh wow, I really, I really am caring anger, I'm caring resentment, I'm carrying this, this overwhelming amount of Of shame for no reason. I've I've been torturing myself because I did not forgive. And so I believe a lot of us have experienced this phenomenon of growing through life, experiencing the feelings of hurt you Based off of the behaviors of others, but so I'm gonna share some things with you.
Speaker 1:Number one forgiveness is not the acceptance of the behavior. Forgiveness is not the acceptance of the behavior. A lot of times we feel that we have to accept the behavior. If I forgive, that means I'm accepting of what you've done to me, and that's not the case. Forgiveness is not accepting of the behavior. It's. It's actually accepting that everyone is a flawed individual and that everyone has their weaknesses, and acknowledging that Forgiveness is I forgive you and I accept that you are flawed as I, as I am as well, I'm also flawed but forgiveness is not accepting the behavior. So for a lot of us, the reason why we feel that forgiveness is weakness is because we think that forgiveness is accepting the bad behavior that someone's done to us.
Speaker 1:If someone hurt us or someone talked about us, or somebody you know gave a spew something negative or rumor about us, I'm not gonna forgive you because I'm not gonna accept that behavior false. You forgive but you also don't accept it. I do not accept that. Be right now. What does that look like moving forward. For me, it was me walking up to you, not retaliating, but letting you know hey, I don't accept that behavior, I'm not going to accept that behavior. Well, so what's?
Speaker 1:Number two forgiveness requires boundaries. Forgiveness requires boundaries. If I acknowledge that I'm not going to accept this behavior and I accept the fact that this individual has has a flawed nature, that this individual is flawed and does have weaknesses, as I do as well, then I can be able to say, because of because of your behavior, I forgive you and let it go. I'm not going to hold any anger, resentment towards you, but I'm going to Place boundaries so that I don't get hurt again. That's one step a lot of us miss. We forgive, but we don't implement boundaries.
Speaker 1:Boundaries are essential for us to protect our heart. It's not for them, it's for us. A lot of people hate the word boundaries because Boundaries usually depicts that something is wrong with the other individual. That's why the other individual gets offended. When you say I am just going to play some boundaries right here, they get offended because they feel like there's something wrong with them. Really, boundaries are just implemented to protect you, not to say there's something wrong with you, but there are some behaviors or there's some things that you have that's actually affecting me in a negative way. So I have to put up some some boundaries. I have to put up some walls to ensure that I don't get hurt, to ensure that my heart is healthy, to ensure that I'm protected from the bad behavior. That's what boundaries are for it's to protect you. And so a lot of times we have to make sure that when we forgive, that we put a clear boundary. I'm saying I'm not going to allow that. Understand that you're flawed, I get that you've made some mistakes, but or and I'm going to put a boundary here, I'm going to ensure that I don't get hurt in that way again. And and that actually stops the cycle of us getting hurt over and over and over again, because a lot of us can say, oh, I forgive you because we haven't placed boundaries.
Speaker 1:We repeat the cycle of getting hurt or getting hurt by the same type of people. Have you ever wondered why you go into a relationship and you had this one individual who keeps attracting the same type of people and they keep getting hurt the same type of way with different people? Is because they haven't learned to forgive and place boundaries. So they forgave that one individual, leave that individual, oh, I forgive that person, I don't have no anger or resentment towards that person. But then you get us another person who does the exact same thing, just a different body, same behavior. You, because you have not put any boundaries in place to protect your heart, you repeat the cycle. It's important that we place boundaries so that we don't repeat the cycle of getting hurt, then we don't repeat the cycle of allowing the same type of behavior to happen to us over and over and over again. Number three forgiveness is for yourself, not the other person.
Speaker 1:A lot of times when we do not forgive, we hold in a lot of pain, we hold in that trauma, we hold in that anger and that resentment, and what happens is it gets stored in our bodies. Sometimes you can look at someone. It seems like they have a lot of different elements. You have to ask like what is it that you haven't forgiven? What is it that you're storing in your body that's causing a physical manifestation of sickness? We have to ask ourselves these questions like why do you have chest pains? Why do you have heart issues? Why do you have Pains in your stomach? What's what? Do you have shoulder pain? What's going on with your neck? There's this book called your body keeps the score. It talks about how the different trauma that we have dealt with in our life, if we have not forgiven properly, if you haven't went through the healing process, will store this trauma in our bodies without us knowing it and it causes a physical manifestation of sickness or some type of ailment. And a lot of these elements can be cured if we go through the healing process of forgiveness.
Speaker 1:You know, for me, I've had some chest pains here and there and I'm like man. Why do I have these chest pains? What's going on in my body? What was what was going on here? I don't know what, where it's from. Is it from the food that I'm eating could be? Is it, is it from me being overly active? What is the issue? And had to realize after going to therapy have a lot of trauma that have that I have not dealt with. It's just trauma being stored in my body, different pockets of areas. It's just stored in my body.
Speaker 1:In order for us to really operate in the fullness, in the wholeness of which God has called us to be, we have to Recognize what trauma that we have experienced that we have not dealt with, because a lot of us have experienced trauma in Some way, but we haven't dealt with it. A Lot of us have experienced loss, but we haven't dealt with it, we haven't grieved, we haven't looked at the situation, accepted the reality of that situation and we just moved on as if it never happened. And so we put up blocks and barriers in our brain, store it away. And once we store it away, it gets stored in our bodies and we have these physical ailments, we have these sicknesses and we have these headaches and these different things. That starts happening and manifesting why? It's because we have not identified and addressed the trauma in our lives we have not forgiven.
Speaker 1:So when you any, anytime you hear a name, you get triggered, you get upset, you get angry. Every time you smell something, you get upset, you get angry, as though this person used to do this to me and put this on me, but get upset. You know, for years I remember going around like being mad for no reason. I'm trying to figure out why am I mad on the basketball court? Cuz I remember people used to tell me like oh, you ain't nobody, you ain't this, you Ain't that, and you small, but I was really small back in the day, and so I was just like, hey, what do you mean? Like, no, I ain't small, is how I used to retaliate. Nah, bro, I ain't this, ain't that? Ain't this, ain't that? Just to get bullied, used to get teased, and I never forgave. I just stored in the back of my head and then when something pops up, that physical manifestation comes up. Ha, this anger. I'm like what? Why am I like this?
Speaker 1:Well, did you forgive old dude back in the day when you was in middle school? Did you forgive old dude for talking to you that way, making you feel that way and bullying you? Did you forgive dude? Not, and forgive dude. Well, you might want to forgive dude cuz it keeps popping up in this, in this way, in this exact same way. It keeps popping up. So think about what it is, think about the root of where you are, and then forgive, let it go and forgive. I don't have those issues. It's like wow, is not? It's like completely dissolved itself, where I'm like now I can play in peace and I or now I can.
Speaker 1:I don't have to feel those same feelings when someone says something that could have triggered me back then, but because I forgave and because I've acknowledged that trauma, or acknowledged what happened, the reality of what happened, and I allowed myself to heal from it. It no longer bothers me, no longer has control over me. And so what we do is, when we don't forgive, we allow that thing, that trauma, that experience, to actually control us, and so we live bound. We live in this in a way where we are controlled by our trauma. We are controlled by our past experiences. We are now controlled by other people's bad behavior towards us, and the only way to get that control back is if we forgive. That's the only way we get that control back, get our life back, if we learn the simple art of forgiveness. It's forgiveness necessary for healing. In order for me to heal, I need to forgive, because we all go through life being hurt by other people. It's part of life, it's part of what we go through. It sucks, it hurts, yes, but if we understand the art of forgiveness, we'll understand how to heal and walk through life whole, walk through life in wholeness.
Speaker 1:I've had some experiences with friends, with people who've hurt me and my family, and I had to understand Wait a minute, this is the one. This is an attack of the enemy. This this person is a flawed individual. This person claims to walk with God but doesn't know the true nature of God, because God is love and what has been spewed as hate. This person is misled. So we have to really think, man, like I could really go and say something crazy. I could really go in and pump up my chest and do all this stuff to make sure you ain't go talk to me like I could do all this different stuff. That's all this anger. That's not the love of God. That's not the love of Christ. I can't heal like that. That's showing someone that I'm not healed, that I'm still dealing with past trauma, because that that person's behavior is just really triggering the response of a root that has not been dealt with. Get what I'm saying this?
Speaker 1:It always comes down to a root the behaviors of others that bothers us. Usually it's triggered by something that has not been dealt with in our past. That's what triggers it. That's what makes us more upset. That's what makes us more Animated with our responses. It's because it triggered an area that has been laying dormant in our bodies for a long time.
Speaker 1:A Person that has hurt is that we've stored away. I'm gonna forget that and then they gonna bother me and soon as someone say something crazy it it aggravates the little boy and you. It aggravates a little girl and you. It aggravates you why? Because there's something that happened at that age that you never dealt with, that you never, that you never thought to heal from that, you never thought to forgive. There's always a root.
Speaker 1:Anytime we feel threatened by something, there's always a root to that. Why are you feeling? Why do you feel threatened by that? Because, if you think of it in hindsight, like, why are you threatened by that? Because we are not threatened by the same things, something you can do. Your bad behavior might not affect me the same way it could affect someone else. Why? Because everyone has different roots. We're all rooted in different things and once we understand that and once we understand that emotional response is from a root that hasn't been dealt with, we begin to understand people and then we'll be more empathetic towards them. Our body keeps the score, man. So if you haven't read that book, it's an incredible book. It really, really dives deep into healing. It dives deep into trauma. But if you don't want to dive into your trauma, probably don't read the book, because if you're not dedicated to healing. You probably shouldn't read the book, but it's really good nonetheless. And I like to say this too don't hold onto the pain, let go of the pain, because if you do not, we'll lock ourselves in an emotional, unhealthy prison.
Speaker 1:I talked about was it yesterday or the day before on my TikTok, I believe I put it on Instagram too about how an ax the Bible talks about how Peter was in prison and an angel of the Lord struck Peter on the side and Peter woke up. As soon as he woke up, while the angel was telling him to get up, his chains fell off and the angel of the Lord tells him to put on his sandals, put on his clothes and follow me out of the prison. So Peter follows the angel out of the prison and into the city and Peter thought he was dreaming. He was like I must be in a dream until he realized wait a minute, I'm not in prison anymore, I'm actually in the city. I'm actually out of being chained up, I'm not bound anymore. He came to a realization that he wasn't dreaming, but a lot of us.
Speaker 1:God has told us to wake up and God has freed us from those chains, but we're still walking around the prison chain free. We're still in prison. We still are dealing with the environment of anger, the environment of resentment that we're still in that prison of emotionally unhealthy ways. But God says I've already freed you, I've given you the tools to be free and in order for you to get out of the prison and into the city, you got to forgive and out of you and order for you to get out of the prison. You have to heal, but in order that you have to be led by God to do that, because it takes the workings of God, it takes the presence of God, it takes a relationship with God to really heal and to really forgive.
Speaker 1:Because a lot of us have experienced some interesting things. We've experienced some really hurtful things in our life. We've gone through some shameful things. We've gone through things that we should not have dealt with as a child. We probably shouldn't even been in that environment. So we have to rely on God to help us through that and we have to learn to let go of that pain. Ultimately, that pain can cause us to continue to hurt ourselves. So here's the solution Number one accept the reality of what happened my wife's talked about before.
Speaker 1:We were talking about living in denial, accept the reality of what took place. Okay, this happened. I did get hurt by this. I'm not in denial. Oh, I'm not affected by it. They could say whatever, but deep down the side you're rotten. Deep down the side you're angry. Deep down the side you're feeling all of this pain and you're suffering. It's because you're in denial. If you're experiencing more pain and more suffering throughout your days, then you probably are in denial by what happened. Because when you begin to accept what took place, you accept what happened and acknowledge man, this really happened in my life. That's the first step to healing. That's the first step to understanding if you need to forgive or not. That's the first step in understanding that you need therapy is that I recognize the reality and I accept the reality of what happened.
Speaker 1:I'm no longer in denial. I'm not saying that's not affecting me anymore. I'm not saying I don't care about that anymore. I'm actually saying I accept it. I'm hurt by it. It actually did hurt me. It did trigger me. There is a root that came up that I haven't dealt with. I accept it. Now I move to the next step. That next step is letting go and giving it to God. That's the next step. We just have to give it to God.
Speaker 1:Once I accept it, acknowledge the fact that it happened, I say okay, god, this is what happened to me. I'm hurt by it. Can you sit here with me while I give it to you, while I cast my cares to you, while I cast my burdens to you because this is burdening me. I can't hold onto this anymore. I have to let go. Too many of us are caring burdens that aren't meant for you. They're meant for God. We're caring shame. That's not meant for you. They're meant for God. We're caring so much and it's hard for us to walk through life because we're heavy, we're weighed down by so many cares of this world, by so many different traumas and experiences that we have dealt with in our life. God is saying yo just give it to me, let go, because you're living unhealthy. I want you to live healthy, I want you to live whole, I want you to live healing. We can't heal if we're holding on to the very thing that's causing us to be sick. Let go.
Speaker 1:Number three reframe. Their behavior towards you is not a reflection of who you are. Just because their behavior has negatively affected you and impacted you, it doesn't mean that you are that negative behavior or you are what they say you are. You are not a reflection of what they've done to you and many of us are living as a reflection of what's done to us. We're living in our pain, we're living in shame. We're living based off of what was done to us and God is saying reframe that. Don't look at that behavior and then think that you're a reflection of it. Just understand that that behavior is what that is, that what they did is not right. No, it's not acceptable. Understand that. But it is not a reflection of who you are. You're wonderfully made. You're gifted. You are purposed by God. You are more than conquerors. You are uniquely made for this generation, for the world. God has placed an assignment on you. You're called by God. So I'm here to affirm you. For those who think that they are a reflection of what was done to them, you are not that behavior. You are not what was done to you. If you've been abused, you're not what was done to you. You are called by God. God has created you for more.
Speaker 1:We have to walk in that and we have to forgive and reframe how we think about these type of experiences and kind of think from their point of view and this takes maturity to think from their point of view. Where are they at? Why do they feel like they can say that to me? Why do they feel they can do that to me? What's going on in their life? What are some roots that they have that is causing them to behave this way? And when we begin to think like that, empathetically, we begin to think that way, which requires maturity we begin to move into another step of healing, we begin to move into another level of enlightenment and we can get to a place that are phased in our life, where we're just no longer bothered by the things that people say or do to us, because now we're looking at the lens of oh, you got some roots that you haven't dealt with. Oh, you got some trauma. That's why you're talking to me like that I'll forgive you.
Speaker 1:It becomes easier to forgive because you've reframed how you think about other people's behavior towards you or towards others. So, yeah, is forgiveness necessary for healing? The answer is yes. You need to forgive in order to heal. Those are the three things that we have to continuously do in order for us to live in our wholeness, to live, to be completely what God has called us to be, except let go and refrain. Is forgiveness necessary? The answer is yes, so I hope this was helpful to you, hope you get blessed by it and yo, if you like this one, let me know. If you want to hear more things, let me know. I'm excited for your life and I'm excited for your journey and I'm excited for all of us who are looking to cultivate forgiveness in our life. So I hope you have a wonderful day, be blessed, peace.